What to do After a Breakup?
Posted: Thursday, February 23, 2006
by Jeanette Castelli
http://ExtremeBreakupRecovery.com/
Breakups are hard and leave everyone involved feeling lonely, confused, sad, and sometimes desperate.
So, no wonder, most people don’t know what to do after a breakup.
Some people will try to get back with their exes, or desperately look for clues to know if it is really over. Others will hit the bars and pretend they are okay and all is well. Yet others will get into a deep depression. But most will feel very disturbed, their appetites change, they cannot sleep well, and they feel hopeless about the future. That is the first reaction, and it is okay if it lasts only a little bit. However, for most people this situation extends far too long, creating many negative consequences for their lives. Long term pain is truly a waste of precious time. It is like crying over spilled milk. But then, what to do?
The best thing to do after a breakup is to focus on yourself. Take the time to feel what you are feeling. I know it can be intimidating when there are so many emotions and some are very strong, but the more you run away from them, the worse it will be for you.
Find a method for healing and follow it. When you are confused by emotions, fears and loneliness, you may not know how to handle the situation. In the book, “Extreme Breakup Recovery," there is an effective method to go through the steps to heal fully. It is called the F.A.S.T. method. Following a method could save you from lots of pain in the present and future.
One of the steps of the F.A.S.T. method that is crucial to accelerate healing is, to See the Lessons of the relationship and breakup. When people see lessons, they finally can start moving on. But, that can only happen after dealing with the emotions.
As you start feeling better you will be able to return to normal. You may start eating well again, having good sleep, and even feeling positive about the future. Avoid trying to talk to your ex until you feel good about yourself.
You can heal fully and permanently after a breakup just start by being your own best friend and spend some quality time with yourself. Get a cup of coffee or tea and get comfortable start reading and start healing.
©2006 Jeanette Castelli, M.S. Relationship and Breakup Coach. For more information on the material mentioned in this article go to www.ExtremeBreakupRecovery.com/
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